The word independence anchors the mind of all mankind. We revere and believe that we can be independent if we follow the principles of:
· Self-Sufficiency
· Self-Reliance
· Self-Determination
· Freedom
· Individualism
We spend our life in a journey to construct a path to independence in spite of the fact that our very life is based in dependency. We are drawn into dependency from our very first breath. Our mothers' milk feeds us. The support of our family puts a roof over our head and the community trains us to be worthwhile members of society and the world of humanity. Then we are dependent on bosses, customers and social interaction to survive. Still we desire independence.
The idea of independence is a dream. A state impossible to attain yet always calling us to be, and we spend our life in a journey to construct a path to independence which will never happen. Yet we can construct a version of independence by:
1. Conquering fear
2. Building Confidence
3. Self Understanding
4. Consciousness
5. Response
Fear is a driving force in dependency and most fear is illusion. Fear creates competition and rivalry, then confrontation and conflict leading to dependence on others. Accepting "what is" is an affirmative step in conquering fear
Self-confidence takes us past fear to belief, faith, and trust in the certainty that nature has our back. Confidence gives us the self-assurance that we can depend on ourselves as individuals.
Self-understanding identifies how to see ourselves and absorb life as it is. It is an appreciation of who we are, where we come from, and the skill to sort out our mission here.
Consciousness is our perception of the "what is". Using sensitive insight, experience and observation to make assessments and form opinions to make positive independent actions.
Response is the final activity in constructing a path to independence. Often the human being reacts based on illusion instead of fact. Any perceived threat to survival has an invisible power that is reactive in nature, especially in life and death circumstance. The ability to respond instead of react is a powerful part of the independence equation.
· My biggest FEAR in life is becoming dependent.
· The idea of depending on my boss, a medical doctor, expensive insurance or the government for my health care does not feel right.
Are there Solutions?
The answer is YES
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